Tuesday, May 17, 2011

There is nothing wrong with a normal life

I love normality, sometimes I even love the mundane. When it comes to the children I think its even more important. If you were lucky enough to have a happy childhood, why was it happy? I loved the routine of fish and chips on a Friday night after swimming. Rolls and sausage and buying my favourite comic on a Saturday after shopping. Christmas time with all the family in the one place. Bedtime stories. Normal fun, cosy, safe, loving, warm family life.

I have been watching 'My crazy gap year' on ABC. If you have seen it, this blog will make more sense. Essentially its about relatively rich western families taking a year out to have a pretty crazy adventure. Tonight's episode featured a genuinely lovely family who decided to take their 7, 10 and 13 year olds on a 10 month driving adventure through very remote Africa. We are not talking elephants and tigers but scary, scary bandits on the Sudanese border where foreigners have been attacked. They drive a shithouse 4WD which breaks down on a regular basis and near the beginning of their trip, they actually crash the car by completely losing control. Its pretty insane.

I've always considered myself to be a little more flippant than average, a little more fly by night and try to appreciate why people choose the life they do. Here it comes, the BUT. When it comes to kids, I think its so easy to forget, that life is soo exciting and new. They are not as jaded as us adults and don't necessarily feel that need for extreme adventure which includes placing yourself in very silly and dangerous circumstances. When I was watching the seven year old girl sitting bored out her face in the car, in the middle of terrifying bandit country, waiting for her dad to fix the car, it made me a bit angry and sad for her.

Lots of us have been fortunate enough to have had that pretty idyllic, safe childhood but so many kids don't. They come from broken homes, abusive parents, war torn countries. Their childhoods robbed forever. That's why it gets up my nose when these, usually, white middle class westerners decide to go on these 'crazy' journeys with their kids because they think it will enrich the little ones lives.

I am of course speaking as someone who has uprooted her kids once before and is about to uproot them again but in both instances to a fairly normal, settled life  and not adventure for adventures sake. I know I'm being very judgemental and each to their own but still. I love the fact that I can give my kids such a loving family environment. I thank god every day that they get to have a mum and a dad around who love each other and them enormously. I thank God that we get to choose between living in two amazing, beautiful, stable, safe countries. I thank God we are all healthy and happy, especially them. Whilst I am blessed to have them to look after, everyday life is more than enough adventure for me.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011


So, I have just about finished packing all our things for shipping purposes. It wasn't too bad and I feel like our volume of possessions is fairly reasonable for a family of 4 and bump. They probably take up around two thirds of a room (excluding the trampoline, playhouse and T.V!) and I have to admit seventy per cent of it belongs to the two smallest members of the family. Why? Other than the books and puzzles, they haven't asked for a thing from their ever growing expanding pile of plastic.

Apparently the Dalai Lama lives with just seven possessions. Studies have shown the less possessions we have the happier we are! Why is it so hard to let go of stuff? I think I can be quite ruthless when it comes to decluttering but I'm no Dalai Lama, that's for sure. Our Western culture constantly feeds us the message of buy more. What is necessary? Sarah Wilson, in her Sunday Herald column made the suggestion that when you think about it, you really don't ever need more that five pair of undies at any one time!!!!   

I am pondering the necessity of most of our items and its giving me a sore head. I think when you have young kids and you spend a LOT of time picking things up you crave simpler living. Empty space is a wonderful thing and so is a clear head. Here's to having less things and fewer headaches....

Saturday, May 7, 2011

versatile blogger

Thanks to mum on the run http://mummyontherun.blogspot.com/  for nominating me for the versatile blogger award - cheers very much! Apparently I now need to reveal 7 things about me!
1. I have been to India and worked in Mother Theresa's orphanage - one of the most amazing things I have ever done.
2. I am Scottish but have been living in rural NSW, Australia for 2 1/2 years. We are moving back to Scotland in 5 weeks and I am very scared, excited and anxious.
3. I am also 4 1/2 months preggers with our 3rd child
4. I have a degree in Psychology and Philosophy from Glasgow University which was obtained in some hazy past life which I can barely remember.
5. I have thee best husband, immediate family and extended family.
6. I am 32 but aim to maintain a mental and physical age of around 26. lol! 
7. I am bursting for the toilet so really have to rush this post along now.

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